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You cannot divorce without a conflict. But you CAN

You cannot divorce without a conflict. But you CAN choose to conduct yourself in a respectful manner.
The legal outcome of your divorce will likely be the same. But it will take less time, your will spend less $$, you will feel good about yourself and your children will have learned how to deal with difficult life situations well. #itsworthit

Let us help you through your divorce where you can keep your dignity and self-respect. Contact us. Info in bio.

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Hating each other does not get you anywhere. You c

Hating each other does not get you anywhere. You can’t co-parent, you can’t negotiate a separation, you can’t move on. Hating each other cements you together, when you just want “OUT”.

We help our clients focus on what they can control and help them communicate with each other. Separation is a process that you must go through. There are no real short cuts. We walk with you and guide you until your eyes reopen again as the fog of hate slowly dissipates. There is a light at the end of the tunnel and we can help you get there.

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The most hated topic in family law. Spousal suppor

The most hated topic in family law. Spousal support.

Couples separate because they don’t want to be in each other’s lives anymore. Spousal support keeps the connection going.

Payors often feel suffocated by it and recipients often feel embarrassed or powerless about it’s ongoing nature. No one is happy.

Spousal support is meant to equalize the effects of the different roles the parties adopted during the marriage. Whether it’s compensatory for the loss of earning capacity or it is based on need, it is about reducing the abrupt drop in one of the party’s standard of living.

We help spouses negotiate spousal support that balances the needs of both parties. It can be structured in creative ways that minimizes it’s negative impact on the payor, while providing security for the recipient. Everyone feels good about fairness.

Contact us to help us negotiate fairly.

Kids learn by watching their parents. Will you tea

Kids learn by watching their parents. Will you teach them that negative events in life can be overcome, that we treat people with whom we disagree, with respect, and that divorce doesn’t mean no love or no family? Will you teach them that we can be scared and hurt and sad without falling apart? Will you teach them that we can get through tough times by focusing on one step at a time and keep going? Will they know that you love them no matter what happens? And will they learn that tomorrow is a new day and that we forgive ourselves the mistakes we made and we try our best again and again?

Our focus is to help you go through separation in a way that you can be proud of. Contact us.

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There will be a tomorrow. What do you want it to b

There will be a tomorrow. What do you want it to be like?

Contact us to help you put your divorce behind you.

Divorcing couples start out at, what feels like, t

Divorcing couples start out at, what feels like, the bottom of the lake. As they sort through their issues, they become lighter and freer. They are heading for the top to take a breath.

The hardest part before freedom is letting go of the last “stuff” that prevents settlement. Often it’s emotional and the things that are the hardest to let go of are not worth fighting for in a monetary sense. And while it is easy for an outsider to see what the sensible decision would be, it is the opposite of easy, when you are the one separating.

I often ask clients what they would regret more: fighting longer or giving up something. Think about it.

Let us help you swim to the top. Contact us.

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Co-Parenting often starts out rocky after separati

Co-Parenting often starts out rocky after separation. But like with everything else in life, it takes time to get used to and become good at.

It requires a conscious choice to make it work. It’s hard but it’s worth it. Your kids will thank you.

Good co-parenting relationship is aided by counsel mindful of its importance. We not only have your legal interests in mind but also the quality of your continuing relationship with your partner.

We help you make co-parenting work. Contact us.

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Words of wisdom from the best. I used to always

Words of wisdom from the best.

I used to always start my legal research by checking if Phil Epstein said anything about the subject I was researching. He usually did. He was brilliant and hilarious.

This reminder is important for separating couples to understand. Everybody hates doing their financial disclosure. It’s a real pain in the arse. But without it, you are not protected.
If you want your separation agreement to protect you in the future, you must give full disclosure.

Contact us, we can help.

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When children learn about their parents’ divorce

When children learn about their parents’ divorce, it is sad and traumatic for them. That said, divorce doesn’t scar children for life. What hurts them is their parents’ disengagement with them.

Divorcing parents are often preoccupied with their internal struggles; their pain about the breakup, their fears of the future, projecting blame on one another etc. Anger takes up a lot of their energy that used to be focused on the children. They don’t have the capacity to deal with their children’s feelings and to provide emotional support for them.

However, if divorce is handled with mutual compassion, respect and patience, the parents will find the energy to attend to their children’s needs. When children’s needs remain in the focus, the experience of moving through divorce can offer children tools to help them navigate their future conflicts with skills of problem-solving, conflict management and resilience.

If you wish to go through a respectful separation that affords you the energy to continue to care for your children’s needs, please reach out. We are here to help. Contact info in bio.

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Who says a divorce lawyer can’t be romantic and

Who says a divorce lawyer can’t be romantic and believe in love?

But today, I’m thinking of all my clients who may be having a hard time being surrounded by all the Valentine’s Day noise.

For those, who are going through separation or divorce, I wish a peaceful journey! I would like them to know that there is light at the end of the tunnel and there will be new beginnings and new love ❤️. Just keep going!

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Resisting an inevitable separation is like watchin

Resisting an inevitable separation is like watching a car crash in slow motion. You know people are gonna get hurt, there will be financial damage and it will take long to put the pieces back together.

Seek help. Get support. Contact us.

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Divorce is hard for many reasons. One, there is a

Divorce is hard for many reasons. One, there is a lot of emotional pain that results in anger, feelings of loss and disappointment and suspension of reason.
Two, there is fear of the unknown future. Lots of worry about the children, financial security and fear of being alone.

These strong emotions often force good people to make terrible decisions and big mistakes.

Please try to remember that there is light at the end of the tunnel and redemption is possible. We are not our worst mistakes.

Contact us for legal representation or mediation. Link in bio.

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When the matrimonial home is in one spouse’s nam

When the matrimonial home is in one spouse’s name only, many issues may arise:

- Can they kick me out after separation?
- Am I entitled to half of the value?
- It’s my house, I paid for it,but we put it in
their name to protect it.
- Was the house a gift or are they holding
it in trust for me?

These are serious legal issues that need to be teased out. However, at the end of the day, you need to divide the assets in a way that makes sense and keeps both of you financially secure.

We can help with both. Give you sound legal advice and help put that advice in perspective to find a workable solution that meets both of your needs.

When parties aren’t scared about their financial future, they make more reasonable decisions. Fear backs people into their corners and delays finding a reasonable resolution.

Contact us to help you get yours. Link in bio.

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It sounds easy. But people who are going through i

It sounds easy. But people who are going through it can tell you, it is the opposite.

The people who fare the best are the ones who can separate their emotions from the legal issues.

When you are ready, reach out. Contact info in bio.

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When you are in the middle of a divorce, you may n

When you are in the middle of a divorce, you may not be able to see through it. It is scary not knowing how things will turn out or if everyone is going to be ok.

A good lawyer can help you focus on what's right in front of you, what the next step is. Just do that …. don't mind the entirety. You can only get through it one step at a time.

Let us help you with your next step and together you will get through to the other side.

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Family law was written with certain fairness in mi

Family law was written with certain fairness in mind, i.e. the best interest of the children, the protection of the more economically disadvantaged party, fairness in living standards etc. It was written with the best of intentions, yet the results often don’t work for real life families.

Mediation offers to settle your affairs in a way that makes sense. The mediator is there to ensure that you can both speak up for yourselves and that you negotiate fairly. The rest is up to you. You make the deal you want, not what you are told to have.

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People mistakenly believe that when they go to cou

People mistakenly believe that when they go to court, they will be proven right. Family law does not care about right or wrong. There will be no “vindication” in the end.

Litigation makes people more entrenched in their positions and less likely to settle. Parties in court often care more about punishing and hurting each other than they care about their own future.

Litigation is a sure way to drag out your divorce, hurt each other and the children, and waste a TON of money doing it.

Do the smart thing. Settle out of court. Whether you need a lawyer or a mediator, we are here to help. Link in bio.

Mediation offers creative ways to find common grou

Mediation offers creative ways to find common ground between two opposite legal positions and bridge the gap.

Mediation offers parties to draft their own deal that suits their needs. No one size fits all approach. Every family is different. They all need different solutions out of the maze of problems created by their separation and the legal issues that come with it.

Contact us to help you find your solution. Link in bio.

Divorce is a human event with legal consequences.

Divorce is a human event with legal consequences. We understand both. We’ll be there with you along the way so you can get through it.

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When we hurt people, we hurt ourselves too. Thin

When we hurt people, we hurt ourselves too.

Think about what’s important to you and where you want to be a year from now.
Now, make the deal that gets you there.

We can help you see the bigger picture and help you settle your case. Mediate the mean away.

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